Why Are My Kids Wildest at Bedtime? (And Other Mysteries of Parenthood)

Bedtime chaos is a universal parenting mystery—just when you're ready to wind down, your child seems to power up. The surge of energy before sleep is often tied to a mix of overstimulation, overtiredness, and a final need for connection. Understanding why it happens can help parents approach it with patience, routines that calm, and resources that support smoother evenings.

You’ve been counting down to bedtime since 4 p.m.—but suddenly, your child is sprinting in circles, laughing like it’s party time. Sound familiar? You’re not alone.

This “bedtime burst” is often a mix of overtiredness, pent-up energy, and a final grab for connection after a long day. Kids feel safest with you—so of course, all their energy and emotions come out when the day winds down.

Try This Tonight:

• Turn off screens 1 hour before bed

• Offer 10 minutes of undivided attention (books, snuggles, or silly chats)

• Try calming techniques like a lavender-scented bath or quiet music

  
  

Local MA Resources for Bedtime Help & Stories:

• 📚 Boston Public Library Storytimes – www.bpl.org/events

• 🌙 Massachusetts Family Resource Centers – Offers free parenting tips & support: www.frcma.org

• 🐝 The Little Hive (Malden, MA) – Evening play and storytime events for parents & children: www.thelittlehive.com

  
  

Remember: bedtime isn’t broken. It’s just full of feelings. And some nights, the wild energy is just another way your child says, “I still need you.”