First Day of Preschool: Why Am I Crying More Than My Kid?

thelittlehivecompa
Aug 6
2 min read

So it’s happening. You’re about to drop your tiny human off at preschool or kindergarten. The same one who just yesterday couldn’t say “banana” without calling it “nana-baba.”

And now they have a backpack bigger than their torso and you’re expected to just… leave them? With strangers? Who are qualified but not you?

What is this madness?

Your Kid’s First-Day Thoughts:

“Will there be snacks?”
“Will I like my teacher?”
“Will Mommy come back before naptime?”
[Spends 45 minutes debating whether they like the red crayon or the blue one]

Your First-Day Thoughts:

“Did I pack enough snacks?”
“Will they know how to ask for help?”
“What if no one wipes their nose??”
[Cries in minivan for 10 minutes while pretending to ‘check emails’]

A neatly organized backpack ready for the first day of school.

Let’s Be Honest:

The first day of preschool or kindergarten is emotional whiplash.

You’re proud.You’re terrified.You’re half tempted to tape a GoPro to their head and stream their entire day to your phone.

It’s fine. You’re fine. This is all very normal.

5 Tips to Survive (And Even Enjoy) the First Day:

ATalk It Out (Beforehand)Keep it simple:“You’ll play, meet friends, and I’ll be back after snack time.”(Preschoolers measure time in snacks. Use this.)

Create a “Goodbye Routine”High five? Secret handshake? Elbow bump + silly face? Whatever it is, keep it short and consistent. Like ripping off a Band-Aid, but cuter.
Pack a Little ComfortA tiny note, a photo in their lunchbox, or a “magic rock” in their pocket. Just something to remind them you’re not too far away.
Stay Cool at Drop-Off (Even If You’re Dying Inside)Smile. Wave. Walk away. Cry behind the nearest shrub if needed. (Yes, the teachers see you. Yes, they’ve been there too.)
Plan Something for YOUA coffee. A nap. Ten minutes of silence in the car. Something small to mark the milestone — for both of you.